Why is death so sad

Talking about your grief in this community can also help you do something that Gandotra says is essential after experiencing loss. Having a support group is the most important thing when coping with a loss.

Of course, you can also talk to friends or family about your feelings if sharing on social media isn't your thing. When typical coping mechanisms surrounding celebrity deaths, like posting on Twitter or listening to an old album, don't suffice, Catchings suggested using techniques like journaling, mindfulness, or meditation.

If you're not really sure how to go about it, there are apps that can help you meditate, or you can find some tips here. To practice mindfulness, you can try taking a yoga class or working on some breathing techniques to help carry you through a tough time. And as always, if you can't cope on your own, there's no shame in seeking professional help from a therapist. Whether or not you know someone who has died, loss can still affect you. That's why all the experts Teen Vogue spoke to said you should give yourself space to feel whatever emotions come up.

It can feel like nothing matters. If you start to feel you might act on suicidal feelings please talk to someone. You can contact the Samaritans on or contact in case of an emergency.

Your GP can also let you know about mental health support in your local area. People sometimes think they can hear or see the person who has died. It is common to feel physically ill after someone dies — the pain of grief can be felt as a real pain. Every part of your health can be affected.

Read more about the physical effects of grief. People often ask us how long the grief will last. But some people don't feel their grief right away. They may feel numbness, shock, or disbelief. It can take time for the reality to sink in that the person is gone. Rituals, like memorial services and funerals, allow friends and family to get together to support and comfort the people most affected by the loss.

These activities can help people get through the first days after a death and honor the person who died. People might spend time together talking and sharing memories about their loved one. This may continue for days or weeks following the loss as friends and family bring food, send cards, or stop by to visit.

Many times, people show their emotions during this time, like crying. But sometimes people can be so shocked or overwhelmed by the death that they don't show any emotion right away — even though the loss is very hard. People might smile and talk with others at a funeral as if nothing happened, but they're still sad.

Being among other mourners can be a comfort, reminding us that some things will stay the same. When the rituals end, some people might think they should be over their grief. But often the grief process is just beginning.

People may go back to their normal activities but find it hard to put their heart into everyday things. Although they may not talk about their loss as much, the grieving process continues. If someone you know has died, it's natural to keep having feelings and questions for a while. It's also natural to begin to feel a bit better. A lot depends on how a loss affects your life. It's OK to feel grief for days, weeks, or even longer.

How intensely you feel grief can be related to things like whether the loss was sudden or expected, or how close you felt to the person who died. Every person and situation is different. Feeling better usually happens gradually. Check out some coping skills. Get more info on loss and grief. Explore other topics It's not always easy to find the right place to start.

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